Any mother will tell you that you are much more relaxed after your first child. Not that you don't care or worry or love the next children less, you are just more relaxed and know what to expect. You get the routines, you know they will in fact survive the little bumps, diaper rash, sugar, and occassional crying fit.
My two minis are total opposites. I mean Mini #1 screamed for the first six months of life, doesn't like to sleep, is a picky eater, walked at 8 1/2 months, was painfully shy until a few months ago, loves books...just to name a few. With Mini #2, she loves life and is just happy all the time, loves to sleep (we used to have to wake her up sometimes as an infant to eat), and will eat anything you put in front of her, isn't walking yet but really wants to, will go to anyone and is quite the social butterfly, she would rather eat books than actually listen to them, and is just a much more relaxed and laid back child.
With Mini #1 I was very nervous. Purell was my BFF and everyone's hands were washed and sanitized. I used to be so tense anytime he was held by someone else. I worried everytime he cried. Mr. Molly Lou worked internationally, so it was just he and I. He was a terrible sleeper and had such awful colic that some nights it was ALL I could do to get both of us to sleep.
At the beginning of this post, I mentioned being more laid back this "go round." When Mini #2 was about 5 days old, Mini #1 dragged her around our king sized bed and a few days later lifted her up on the bed and then dropped her (it was only a few inches.) Did I freak out???? No.
Mini #2 LOVES to eat dirt, bark, and sand. As much as I try to keep her out of it, she loves it. She could gnaw on a piece of bark all day long. Do I freak out???? No. (If I did, we could never go outside. When we are in the pool, she would much rather crawl out and play in the dirt and grass around the pool deck area.)
The other night after dinner, I was sweeping the floors and cleaning up. I went to do something else and Mini #2 crawled to my pile and picked out a piece of asparagus that she decided she did in fact want to eat. Certainly a little dirt and other crumbs couldn't hurt. Did I freak out????? No.****
Mini #2 is determined to walk, but just can't take the plunge. She is so close and is great at standing independently. She is also getting much faster at scooting all over the place not to mention the speed crawler she has become. She tends to fall and/or bang her head at least 23 times a day. Do I freak out???? No.
She loves bath time and she loves taking a bath with her brother. They normally play very nicely together in the bath. She tried to stand up in the bath tub and Mini #2 was trying to swim a lap in the tub and knocked her over. Did I freak out about this???? No. (I started clapping and she smiled and continued to play with her bath toy. However, lap swimming has been banned from the tub and is only allowed in the pool. )
Are you sensing a pattern here? I adore Mini #2. I can't imagine life without her. She is such a wonderful and loving child, but I am much more relaxed (or this post should just be Terrible Mother Part: 56723) and know that she will be fine. I mean the dirt, bark, and sand are full or protein and iron. A few bumps on the head will only make her stronger and the asparagus on the floor only promotes my teaching of healthy eating. How many 10 month old children do you know LOVE asparagus???
I just worry about Mini #3 whenever his/her times comes. Perhaps I will just start serving his/her meals on the floor and just add a helmet as a permanent accessory for all the bumps and bruises that are inevitable. Lord help us if we have more children...poor things don't stand a chance.
(Mini #2 yesterday...she is darn cute and perfect! She is trying to climb up a chair.)
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